Have you ever had a deep revelation, a breakthrough, or an exciting idea and felt the urge to share it immediately?
I know I have.
The moment we discover something profound about ourselves, we naturally want to express it, to let others in on our journey. But I’ve come to realize—and I see this often in my clients too—that oversharing can sometimes do more harm than good.
When we share too soon, before our insights have had time to settle within us, we risk exposing something fragile to external influences that may not be supportive or understanding. The person we confide in may not fully grasp our perspective. Worse, they might project their own fears, doubts, or unresolved emotions onto us. Not because they intend harm, but simply because they see the world through their own lens. And suddenly, what was once an exciting discovery can feel diminished, misunderstood, or even dismissed.
Why You Shouldn’t Overshare
It Can Drain Your Energy – Enthusiasm is a powerful force, but if met with indifference, skepticism, or negativity, it can be like a balloon suddenly losing air. That vibrant energy you felt? It might deflate before you even had the chance to fully embody it.
Your Truth Needs Time to Strengthen – When something is still fresh, it is delicate. Sharing prematurely exposes it to opinions and influences that might shake your confidence or cause you to second-guess yourself. Let it settle. Let it take root.
Not Everyone Will Understand You – And that’s okay! But if you share too soon, you might end up feeling disappointed or even discouraged when others don’t react the way you expected. Their reaction is about them, not you—but it can still impact how you feel about your own truth.
It Can Shift Your Focus Away From Yourself – Instead of staying in your own energy and deepening your understanding, oversharing can make you overly focused on external validation or approval. You don’t need permission to embrace your own growth.
The Power of Holding Back
This isn’t about keeping secrets or isolating yourself—it’s about honoring your own process.
Before sharing, pause. Breathe. Ask yourself: Do I feel clear and grounded in this? Is this something I fully own within myself?
Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is allow yourself the space to be with your insight before offering it to the world. Not everything needs to be spoken immediately. Let it settle. Let it integrate. And when the time is right, you will share from a place of true strength and clarity.
I know it’s hard. I’ve always been an open book, and my instinct is to share the moment inspiration strikes. But I’ve learned—often the hard way—that protecting my energy, my enthusiasm, and my inner truth is one of the most important things I can do for myself.
Next time you feel the urge to share, pause. Give it time. See how it feels after sitting with it for a while. You might find that the strongest truths don’t need immediate validation—they simply need to be lived.
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